Torn asunder : recovering from extramarital affairs / Dave Carder with Duncan Jaenicke.

Includes bibliographical references and index.

Prologue : a letter from "the other woman" -- "What god hath joined together" : in pursuit of healing for shattered marriages -- Sorting out the chaos : the one-night stand and sexual addiction -- Sorting out the chaos : the entangled affair and the add-on affair -- Causes : environments that allow affairs to flourish -- Other factors contributing to infidelity -- Understanding the recovery : the infidel's process -- Understanding the recovery : the spouse's process -- Why? : deciphering the message of the affair -- Anger in affairs : getting good out of getting mad -- Can I trust you again? : rebuilding trust -- "And they shall be as one" : restructuring intimacy -- To tell or not to tell? : the secret affair -- Emotional affairs : hooked, played-out, and desperate for release -- When your souse doesn't want you back : the 90-day experiment -- Appendix A: what to tell the kids -- Appendix B: materials for use with a couples' support group -- Appendix C: marital satisfaction time line -- Appendix D: select marriage and recovery resources.